In a Hindu marriage there are 7 vows which both bride and the groom takes together for life. This infographic is a simple description of the 7 vows or Saath Pheras which a couple take in a marriage ceremony around the holy fire.
I am not much of into pleasing people but I do like people in general, so whenever I like something in them I tend to appreciate it and hence I come across as people’s pleaser but I genuinely compliment them whole heartedly (maybe sometimes not) But I do observe that in return they do appreciate you too & yes that actually feels nice. I feel good, I feel energetic & lively. So why don’t we do it on a regular basis? If we practice it frequently then I believe we can definitely achieve good results not out of others but also ourselves!
So here are my 3 steps to achieve the best outcome out of anyone :-
I don’t know why people don’t appreciate each other that often. Even my husband takes time to give me a compliment on my face (I have to ask him to do that) but he often do that behind my back and I am like, if you are complementing me I should at least know about it, if I am not aware of it then what’s the use?
So if someone is doing something good or looking nice, just say it, I know it is not a big thing but they did tried their best to do it. Hence, just for the sake of their effort, appreciate. They feel good about it afterwards (seriously who won’t?), cause you just have made someone’s day! And I know this will come back to you somehow & that will sure make your day too!
People are different. Respect their way of work. Find the good in it and try to add value to what they have not add what they don’t. Respect and accept as who they are and when you do that will help you achieve the best out of them for sure!
Encouragement is so essential for anyone. We think they don’t need it but everyone does, encouragement helps to build faith and loyalty. If I don’t believe in you then why would I encourage you to do it?
These are just simple things, but we hardly do implement them, do we? How many times have you appreciated you mother’s home cooked food? I know sometimes but why don’t we do it daily? She also looks forward to that, maybe cooking food is her duty, so I believe, appreciating it is yours then!
Did you like my 3 steps? Do share your feedback too.
Hey if you think I am inspired by the book of Stephen R. Covey then you are probably right to some extent but what inspired me to write this was how easily he wrote about the habits which we should follow to be efficient but in reality we seldom do what is right like smoking, we still do it even when we know it’s not helping us in any which way. So I thought of pointing out the 7 habits of highly ineffective people so that you can just dodge them to be successful than accept an unrealistic habit.
No value for time – Time is very important! Just make the most of it by waking up early everyday and seriously avoid things like surfing the net, browsing social media sites or watching TV. Shift such leisure activities to your afternoon break. Do something productive….. activities like making a plan for the day, couple of exercises or yoga in the morning! Avoid multitasking, that is so not going to save time, believe me you’ll probably end up ruining whatever multitasks you are synchronizing! Focus on one and one thing at a time.
Laziness– Being lazy is probably one of the biggest reasons some people don’t achieve what they are supposed to achieve. They have every possible ingredient in them talent, ambition , zeal but they lack that proactive approach and end up becoming the unknown Michael Jackson, who could have been the king of pop if only he started up singing in front of everyone. So get up, be lazy some other day because today, you got to move & shine like a diamond and there is no other day than today to do that!
No initiative – Initiation is very essential in every sphere of your life, from getting a discount on the vegetable price to talking to a girl whom you like. So if you don’t initiate now, you might miss the last train to the land of successful people. Take up what you were planning to do, whatever that is, maybe it won’t work the first time or the second but someday it will and that day you will sure thank me ;P
Escapism – People just avoid topics, things, etc. and escape from the reality but seldom they know they are not escaping from reality but they are escaping from opportunity. Running away won’t make any difference to the way things are going around currently but if you accept the challenge, then you might learn something which can help you in the process of become someone great!
Losing focus – Inefficiency is complementary to those who lack patience. Trees take time to grow, flowers take time to blossom, and so in the same way, what you do today will eventually in time pay off, hence don’t lose hope and patience and leave what you have started in the middle. Stay focused, stay efficient!
Criticizing– We all are so good at this thing of criticizing! But it’s really not hard to see what someone has to offer, maybe that person is not exceptionally good like you but maybe you can channelize that source in a better way. Criticism pulls you away from looking at the brighter side; it just creates a bias judgment and hampers overall growth. Stop criticizing!
Delusional – And lastly the delusional side of the thought that we are the best! You might be good or even great but just get out of the delusion of there is no one other like you. Get out of the delusional life and start listening, whatever the point someone is offering , just evaluate the ones which you can benefit from, disconnect from the ones which are delusional but at least develop a quality of listening, probably you’ll end up hearing something really interesting!
Did I miss out on something? Do share you comments…